Privacy Policy

Privacy Policy

Last updated: December 31, 2025

This blog is offered as a supportive space to explore and better understand neurodivergent experiences, including your own and those of people you care about. By using this site, you agree to the following terms of use.

At Brains Wired Differently (https://brainswireddifferently.blogspot.com), your privacy is important. This policy explains what information we collect, how it is used, and how we protect it.

Purpose of the blog

• The blog’s purpose is to provide general education, reflection, and practical ideas for self‑advocacy, self‑care, and support for loved ones who may be neurodivergent. It is intended to complement, not replace, information and care from qualified health and mental health professionals.​

• Content is written from a mix of lived experience, informal education, and publicly available resources, and should be understood as supportive information and opinion, not as professional clinical advice.

1. Information We Collect

We may collect information in the following ways:

a. Visitor Information

• Browser type, operating system, IP address

• Pages visited, time spent on site, and click patterns

• Referral links or search queries

b. Voluntary Submissions

• Comments, messages, or emails you send through the site

• Contact form submissions (if any)
  

You are not required to provide this information, but if you choose not to, some features (such as contact fromr) may not work.

c. Cookies & Analytics

Like many websites, we use cookies and similar technologies to:

-Remember your preferences and settings

-Help the site function correctly

-Understand how visitors use the site so we can improve it

-Support analytics and, in some cases, marketing or advertising

Some cookies are set by us, and some may be set by third parties who help us with analytics or advertising. Most browsers accept cookies by default. You can adjust your browser settings to block or delete cookies. Please note that if you block some cookies, parts of the site may not work properly or may feel less smooth to use.

Blocking cookies may not completely prevent information from being shared with third parties such as advertising partners, but it can limit certain kinds of tracking.

2. Information about how you use the site

We also collect certain information automatically when you visit or use our website (“Usage Data”). This helps us understand how the site is used so we can improve it over time. We may use information to:

• Improve website content and functionality (Such as Device information, Browser information, IP address and general location, How you move through and interact with the site)

• Monitor and analyze traffic trends

We do not sell, rent, or share personal information with third-party advertisers.

3. Third-Party Links

Our site may contain links to websites, platforms, or services we do not own or control. If you choose to visit those sites, their privacy and security practices will apply, not ours.

We are not responsible for:

-How those sites collect, use, or protect your data

-The accuracy, completeness, or reliability of information found on those sites

Information you share on public or semi-public spaces (including comments, social media, or community platforms) may be seen and used by others. Please be mindful of what you choose to share.

4. Security

We take reasonable measures to protect your information. However, no system is completely secure, and we cannot guarantee absolute protection.

5. Children’s Privacy

This website is not intended for children under 13. Brains Wired Differently is designed for adults and older teens and is not intended for young children. We do not knowingly collect personal information from children.

6. Your Choices

• You can disable cookies in your browser (may affect some functionality).

7. Embedded content from other websites

Some of our articles may include embedded content from other sites (for example, videos, images, or articles). Embedded content from another website behaves as if you had visited that other site directly.

These external sites may:

-Collect data about you

-Use their own cookies and trackers

-Monitor your interaction with the embedded content (especially if you have an account with them and are logged in there)

We do not control these third-party sites, so their use of your data is governed by their own privacy policies.

8. Who we share your data with

We do not sell your personal information, but we may share it in these situations:

-With service providers who work on our behalf, such as website hosting, IT support, payment processing, analytics, email services, customer support, cloud storage, and order fulfillment

-With business and marketing partners who help us provide services or show you relevant information; these partners use your data according to their own privacy notices

9. Updates

This Privacy Policy may change. Updates will be posted here with the date revised.

Communicating Comfortably with Everyone: A Color-Based Guide for Social Anxiety and ASD

Social interactions can be challenging—especially if you experience social anxiety, have communication difficulties, or are neurodivergent. 

Misreading cues, saying the “wrong thing,” or feeling overwhelmed can make conversations exhausting. Luckily, inspired by the “Surrounded by Idiots” Book by Thomas Erikson, the color personality system offers a simple framework to make interactions smoother and more comfortable.

Understanding the Color System

This system divides personalities into four main types:

• Red (Dominant / Driver) – Direct, decisive, goal-oriented.

• Yellow (Influencer / Socializer) – Cheerful, talkative, spontaneous, energetic.

• Green (Steady / Supporter) – Calm, empathetic, reliable, harmony-seeking.

• Blue (Conscientious / Analyst) – Thoughtful, precise, cautious, logical.

Most people are a mix of two colors, with one dominant and one secondary trait (e.g., Red-Green or Blue-Yellow). The key to comfortable conversation is matching your approach to their dominant color, while honoring the secondary traits.

The Comfort “Recipe” for Color Mixes

Here’s a guide to interacting with common color combinations:

1. Red-Green

• Traits: Action-focused Red + empathetic Green

• How to engage: Be direct but considerate. Focus on goals, but acknowledge feelings.

• Tip: “I see the goal is important, and I want to make sure everyone feels good about the plan.”

2. Red-Blue

• Traits: Assertive Red + analytical Blue

• How to engage: Offer clear steps and logical reasoning. Avoid emotional arguments.

• Tip: “Here’s the plan step by step; this approach minimizes risk and maximizes results.”

3. Green-Red

• Traits: Calm Green + occasional decisive Red

• How to engage: Be gentle, patient, and slowly introduce decisions or changes.

• Tip: “Let’s consider a few options together; we can decide on the best way forward.”

4. Green-Blue

• Traits: Empathetic Green + precise Blue

• How to engage: Speak calmly, provide details, and give time to process information.

• Tip: “I’ve prepared details so you can review at your pace; I want your feedback.”

5. Blue-Red

• Traits: Analytical Blue + decisive Red

• How to engage: Focus on logic, but acknowledge occasional action or urgency.

• Tip: “Based on the numbers, here’s the plan; we can move forward once you’re comfortable.”

6. Blue-Green

• Traits: Detail-oriented Blue + harmony-focused Green

• How to engage: Be factual, patient, and emphasize fairness.

• Tip: “I’ve outlined all the details, and I want to make sure it aligns with everyone’s comfort.”

7. Red-Yellow

• Traits: Goal-driven Red + social Yellow

• How to engage: Mix efficiency with energy and light humor.

• Tip: “We can hit the target, and I know you’ll make it fun along the way.”

8. Green-Yellow

• Traits: Calm Green + cheerful Yellow

• How to engage: Use warmth and friendliness. Avoid pressure; sprinkle light humor.

• Tip: “Let’s brainstorm together; it’ll be fun and easygoing.”

9. Blue-Yellow

• Traits: Logical Blue + expressive Yellow

• How to engage: Lead with facts, add small friendly anecdotes to keep it approachable.

• Tip: “Here’s the analysis, and by the way, I found a fun example you might like.”

General Tips for Comfort and Confidence

1. Mirror their pace: Reds move fast, Greens slow down, Blues think carefully, Yellows are energetic.

2. Match their language:

   • Red → Action words (“do,” “start,” “achieve”)

   • Green → Supportive words (“we,” “together,” “feel”)

   • Blue → Precise words (“data,” “analysis,” “plan”)

   • Yellow → Expressive words (“exciting,” “fun,” “amazing”)

3. Balance energy for mixed personalities: Lead with the dominant color traits, then sprinkle in secondary traits for comfort.

4. Use humor wisely: Light humor can ease tension with Greens and Yellows, but be cautious with Reds and Blues.

5. Practice small steps: For those with social anxiety or ASD, try starting conversations with color-matched small talk, then gradually introduce deeper topics.

Color Mix Conversation Cheat Sheet

Color Mix	Key Traits to Match	Sample Phrases / How to Talk	Extra Tips
Red-Green	Direct (Red) + Empathetic (Green)	“I see the goal is important, and I want everyone to feel good about it.”	Be concise, polite, acknowledge feelings.
Red-Blue	Direct (Red) + Logical (Blue)	“Here’s the plan step by step; this approach minimizes risk and maximizes results.”	Keep structured, avoid emotions.
Green-Red	Calm (Green) + Occasional decisive (Red)	“Let’s consider a few options together; we can decide the best way forward.”	Be patient, don’t rush.
Green-Blue	Calm (Green) + Precise (Blue)	“I’ve prepared details so you can review at your pace; I want your feedback.”	Speak softly, give time to process.
Blue-Red	Analytical (Blue) + Decisive (Red)	“Based on the numbers, here’s the plan; we can move forward when you’re comfortable.”	Lead with facts, allow some urgency gently.
Blue-Green	Logical (Blue) + Harmonious (Green)	“I’ve outlined the details, and I want to make sure it feels fair to everyone.”	Be precise, patient, fair.
Red-Yellow	Direct (Red) + Fun (Yellow)	“We can hit the target, and I know you’ll make it fun along the way.”	Mix goals with light humor, keep energy positive.
Green-Yellow	Calm (Green) + Cheerful (Yellow)	“Let’s brainstorm together; it’ll be fun and easygoing.”	Friendly, patient, sprinkle light humor.
Blue-Yellow	Logical (Blue) + Expressive (Yellow)	“Here’s the analysis, and by the way, I found a fun example you might like.”	Lead with logic, add friendly anecdote.

Why This Works for Neurodivergent People

For individuals with ASD or social anxiety, navigating social cues can be overwhelming. This color-based approach provides a clear, logical structure:

• It reduces guesswork about how to respond.

• It allows preparation before the conversation.

• It provides a safe framework to mirror or complement the other person’s style, which naturally makes both parties feel comfortable.

Even if your social skills feel limited, using color “recipes” is like having a cheat sheet for human interaction. With practice, it becomes easier to engage, connect, and leave conversations feeling calm instead of drained.

Quick Conversation Strategy

1. Identify the person’s dominant color (first trait in the mix).

2. Mirror their pace and tone:

   • Red → fast, decisive

   • Green → slow, calm

   • Blue → careful, precise

   • Yellow → energetic, friendly

3. Use sample phrases to guide what you say.

4. Add secondary color traits for comfort: empathy, logic, humor, or friendliness.

5. Practice small talk first: “How’s your day?” can be adapted per color:

• Red → “How’s your progress today?”

• Green → “How are you feeling?”

• Blue → “Did you review the details?”

• Yellow → “Did anything exciting happen today?”

Closing Thought

Social interactions don’t have to be confusing or exhausting. By understanding color personalities and matching your approach, you can communicate more comfortably—even if you have social anxiety, are on the autism spectrum, or struggle with small talk.

Start small: pick one person you know, identify their color traits, and try the comfort recipe. Over time, you’ll build confidence, clarity, and natural ease in your conversations.

다르게 성장하다: 싱가포르에서 성인 ADHD, HSP, ASD로 살아가기

 싱가포르처럼 빠르게 돌아가는 도시에서 살아가는 건 누구에게나 쉽지 않습니다.

하지만 **성인 ADHD, HSP(고감각자), ASD(자폐 스펙트럼)**를 가진 사람들에게 일상은 마치 매일 줄타기를 하는 것처럼 느껴질 수 있습니다.

붐비는 MRT, 높은 업무 성과를 요구하는 직장 문화, 끊임없는 소음과 자극 속에서
“왜 나만 이렇게 힘들지?”
“나는 왜 항상 뒤처지는 것 같을까?”
라는 생각이 들기도 합니다.

하지만 분명히 말할 수 있는 한 가지가 있습니다.
당신은 고장 난 게 아니라, 다르게 설계된 것입니다.
그리고 그 ‘다름’은 약점이 아니라 잠재적인 강점입니다.

성인 ADHD, HSP, ASD — 겹쳐지는 특성을 이해하기

ADHD, HSP, ASD는 보통 각각 따로 이야기되지만, 실제로는 여러 특성이 동시에 나타나는 성인도 많습니다.
자신의 특성을 이해하는 것이야말로, 나에게 맞는 삶을 설계하는 첫걸음입니다.

ADHD (주의력결핍 과잉행동장애)

집중이 어렵고, 시간 관리가 힘들고, 충동적으로 행동한다고 해서 게으른 건 아닙니다.
당신의 뇌는 정보를 다르게 처리할 뿐입니다.
역동적이고 창의적인 환경, 멀티태스킹이 가능한 업무에서 오히려 능력을 발휘하는 경우도 많습니다.

HSP (Highly Sensitive Person, 고감각자)

감정을 깊이 느끼고, 분위기와 미세한 변화에 민감하며, 직관이 강한 특성은 때로는 버겁게 느껴질 수 있습니다.
하지만 이는 공감 능력, 관찰력, 창의력으로 이어질 수 있는 강점이기도 합니다.

ASD (자폐 스펙트럼)

사회적 상호작용의 어려움, 감각 민감성, 루틴에 대한 선호는 당신의 ‘성향’입니다.
이 특성은 정밀함, 패턴 인식 능력, 깊이 있는 사고력으로 연결되기도 합니다.

싱가포르 성인들이 흔히 겪는 어려움

직장 환경의 부조화

싱가포르의 많은 직장은 속도, 효율, 획일성을 중시합니다.
성인 ADHD, HSP, ASD를 가진 사람들은 이런 환경에서 쉽게 소외감을 느낄 수 있습니다.

사회적 피로

네트워킹, 스몰토크, 암묵적인 사회 규범은 특히 HSP와 ASD 성인에게 큰 에너지를 요구합니다.

감각 과부하

붐비는 MRT, 밝은 사무실 조명, 지속적인 소음은 스트레스와 불안, 번아웃으로 이어질 수 있습니다.

성인 진단과 지원의 부족

싱가포르에서도 인식은 점점 나아지고 있지만, 성인 ADHD, HSP, ASD는 여전히 과소진단되거나 오해받는 경우가 많습니다.

‘버티기’가 아닌 ‘성장하기’

증상과 고통에만 집중하기보다, 방향을 바꿔봅시다.
이해, 전략, 커뮤니티를 통해 ‘다르게 성장하는 것’이 핵심입니다.

1. 나의 강점을 활용하기

• ADHD: 하이퍼포커스(몰입)를 활용해 프로젝트에 깊이 집중

• HSP: 공감 능력을 살려 코칭, 상담, 콘텐츠·예술 분야에서 두각

• ASD: 패턴 인식과 디테일을 활용해 IT, 디자인, 분석 업무에 강점

2. 환경을 재설계하기

자극을 줄인 작업 공간, 노이즈 캔슬링 헤드폰, 자연광, 예측 가능한 루틴은 큰 차이를 만듭니다.
작업을 작은 단계로 나누고, 시각적 도구를 활용해 정리하세요.

3. 커뮤니티와 연결되기

싱가포르에는 아직 작지만 성장 중인 신경다양성 성인 커뮤니티가 있습니다.
온라인 포럼, 관심사 기반 모임은 고립감을 줄이고 현실적인 전략을 제공합니다.

4. 자기 돌봄은 ‘사치’가 아니라 전략

명상, 저널링, 자연 속 산책은 감정 과부하를 완화하는 데 도움이 됩니다.
구조화된 휴식과 현실적인 일정 관리가 번아웃을 예방합니다.

5. 스스로를 옹호하기

자신의 특성을 이해하면 직장에서 합리적인 조정을 요청할 수 있습니다.
주변을 교육하는 것은 낙인을 줄이고 이해를 넓히는 첫걸음입니다.

관점을 바꾸다: 다름은 경쟁력이다

ADHD, HSP, ASD 성인들은 종종 “더 잘 맞춰야 한다”고 말해집니다.
하지만 진짜 해답은 나를 숨기는 것이 아니라, 나에게 맞는 삶을 설계하는 것입니다.

싱가포르의 빠른 도시 리듬은 강렬합니다.
그러나 올바른 전략, 환경, 그리고 연결이 있다면
신경다양성은 당신만의 경쟁력이 될 수 있습니다.

싱가포르에서 성인 ADHD, HSP, ASD로 살아가고 있다면 기억하세요.
당신의 어려움은 현실이지만, 잠재력은 아직 충분히 발휘되지 않았습니다.

다르게 성장하세요.
쉽지는 않지만, 가능할 뿐 아니라 — 강력합니다.

Terms of Use / Disclaimers

This blog is offered as a supportive space to explore and better understand neurodivergent experiences, including your own and those of people you care about. By using this site, you agree to the following terms of use.

​

Purpose of the blog

• The blog’s purpose is to provide general education, reflection, and practical ideas for self‑advocacy, self‑care, and support for loved ones who may be neurodivergent. It is intended to complement, not replace, information and care from qualified health and mental health professionals.​

• Content is written from a mix of lived experience, informal education, and publicly available resources, and should be understood as supportive information and opinion, not as professional clinical advice.​

No professional relationship

• Reading, commenting on, or contacting the author through this blog does not create a therapeutic, medical, or coaching relationship. Any communication via comments, email, or forms is for general discussion and support only.​

• The blog does not provide individualized assessment, diagnosis, treatment planning, or crisis support. For those needs, consult appropriately qualified professionals in your area.​

Personal responsibility

• You are responsible for how you choose to interpret and apply information from this blog to your life or relationships. Use your own judgment and, where appropriate, seek professional guidance before making health, educational, work, or medication decisions.​

• The blog cannot guarantee that strategies or perspectives described will be suitable for every person or situation, given the wide diversity within neurodivergent communities.​

Not for emergencies

• This blog is not designed for emergency or crisis support. If you or someone you love is in immediate danger, in crisis, or considering self‑harm, contact local emergency services, a crisis hotline, or attend the nearest emergency department right away.​

Changes and updates

• Terms of use and content may be updated or revised periodically to reflect new insights, language, or research. Continued use of the blog after changes are posted constitutes acceptance of the updated terms.

Use of Artificial Intelligence (AI)–Assisted Research and Writing

• Some content on this site may be supported by AI-assisted research and writing tools. All information is shared for educational and reflective purposes only and should not be considered professional or clinical advice.

Disclaimers

• Blog content on this site is for general information and education only and is not a substitute for professional, individualized clinical care. Nothing on this blog is intended to provide a diagnosis, prescribe a treatment plan, or recommend starting, changing, or stopping any medication.

  ​

  Reading about neurodivergence online can be a helpful starting point for self‑understanding, but it cannot replace a thorough assessment by a qualified clinician who can consider your full history, current context, and any co‑occurring conditions. Only licensed healthcare professionals are trained and authorized to provide formal diagnoses and personalized treatment recommendations.

  
  

  If you have questions or concerns about your mental health, neurodevelopmental profile, or medication, speak directly with a licensed physician, psychiatrist, psychologist, or other appropriately qualified professional in your region. Do not delay, disregard, or change professional medical advice because of something you have read on this blog or elsewhere online.

  ​

  The information shared here may summarize or interpret aspects of current research, but it is not peer‑reviewed scientific literature and may not reflect the most up‑to‑date evidence or clinical guidelines. For decisions about diagnosis, treatment options, or medication, rely on peer‑reviewed sources and guidance from reputable professional organizations (for example national psychological, psychiatric, or medical associations), together with your own healthcare providers.

  ​

  In an emergency—such as thoughts of self‑harm, intent to harm others, or inability to care for yourself—contact local emergency services, a crisis hotline, or go to the nearest emergency department immediately. Online resources, including this blog, are not designed to respond to crises or provide urgent care.