A Quiet Rebellion: An ADHD, HSP & ASD Adult Learning to Breathe in a World That Doesn’t Slow Down

I didn’t grow up dreaming of starting an ADHD, HSP, ASD adult blog.

I grew up wondering why the world felt so loud, so sharp, and so unforgiving—while everyone else seemed to walk through it just fine.

As an adult with ADHD, High Sensitivity (HSP), and Autism Spectrum traits (ASD), I learned early on that the world rewards speed, confidence, and conformity. It does not reward overwhelm, deep feeling, or asking for clarity when others think things are “obvious.”

And yet, here we are.

This blog exists because venting alone was no longer enough—and staying silent was slowly breaking me.

The Neurodivergent Reality No One Talks About

Living as a neurodivergent adult in Singapore often means learning how to mask before you learn how to rest.

You learn how to:

  • Appear “normal” in meetings while your mind runs in ten directions

  • Suppress emotions because being sensitive is seen as weakness

  • Over-explain yourself, then blame yourself for being “too much”

  • Feel deeply misunderstood—even by people who mean well

For adults with ADHD, ASD, or HSP traits, burnout doesn’t come from laziness. It comes from trying to survive in systems that were never designed for our nervous systems.

This blog is where I stop pretending otherwise.




Why This ADHD, HSP & ASD Adult Blog Exists

This is a space where I vent with intention.

I share:

  • Personal experiences of being an ADHD, HSP, ASD adult

  • Emotional overload, shutdowns, burnout, and masking

  • Insights I wish someone had explained earlier

  • Language to help neurotypical people understand us better

  • Gentle reminders that you’re not broken—you’re overstimulated

Some days, the writing will be calm.
Some days, it will be angry.
Some days, it will be tired.

All days, it will be honest.

Disappointed With the World—But Still Holding Hope

Yes, I’m disappointed.

Disappointed by workplaces that value productivity over humanity.
Disappointed by people who say “just try harder” or “everyone struggles.”
Disappointed by how often neurodivergent adults are dismissed, misdiagnosed, or ignored—especially women.

But hope still exists here.

Hope that one day:

  • Neurodivergent adults won’t need to justify their needs

  • Sensitivity will be seen as perception, not weakness

  • ADHD won’t be mistaken for irresponsibility

  • Autism won’t be reduced to stereotypes

  • Rest won’t feel like failure

Hope that understanding will replace judgment.

If You’re Neurodivergent, This Space Is for You

If you are an ADHD adult, an HSP, on the autism spectrum, or somewhere in between—and you’ve ever felt like you’re constantly adjusting yourself to fit the world—this blog is for you.

You are not alone.
You are not dramatic.
You are not “too much.”

You are responding normally to a world that isn’t built for how your brain processes life.

And if you’re here to learn, to support someone you love, or to understand neurodivergence better—thank you for being willing to listen.

This blog is my quiet rebellion.

A place where venting becomes language, pain becomes clarity, and hope—slowly—learns how to breathe again.



中文版:

我小时候，从没梦想过要开一个关于 ADHD、HSP 或 ASD 成人的博客。

我只是在想，为什么这个世界那么嘈杂、那么锋利、那么无情——而其他人似乎都能轻松走过。

作为一个有 ADHD、高敏感（HSP）和自闭症谱系（ASD）特质的成年人，我很早就明白，这个世界奖励的是速度、自信和顺从。它并不奖励容易被压垮、情感丰富，或者在别人觉得“显而易见”的事情上寻求澄清的人。

然而，我们还是在这里。

这个博客的存在，是因为仅仅发泄已经不够，而沉默却在慢慢把我压垮。

没有人谈论的神经多样性现实

在新加坡，作为神经多样性成年人生活，往往意味着你得先学会伪装，才可能学会休息。

你会学会：

  • 在会议上看似“正常”，却脑子同时跑十条线

  • 压抑情绪，因为敏感被视作软弱

  • 解释过度，然后因为“太过”而责备自己

  • 即便身边的人好意满满，也感到深深的误解

对于有 ADHD、ASD 或 HSP 特质的成年人来说，倦怠并非源自懒惰，而是因为试图在从未为我们的神经系统设计的体系中生存。

这个博客，是我停止假装一切都没事的地方。



为什么开这个 ADHD、HSP & ASD 成人博客

这是一个有意发泄的空间。

我分享：

  • 作为 ADHD、HSP、ASD 成年人的个人经历

  • 情绪过载、精神关闭、倦怠与伪装

  • 我希望早些年有人告诉我的洞见

  • 帮助神经典型（neurotypical）人更好理解我们的语言

  • 温柔提醒：你不是坏掉了，你只是被过度刺激了

有些日子，我的文字会平静；
有些日子，它会带着愤怒；
有些日子，它会疲惫不堪。

但每一天，它都是真实的。

对这个世界失望，却仍保有希望

是的，我失望。

  • 对那些把生产力看得比人性更重要的工作环境失望

  • 对那些说“努力一点就好”或“大家都挣扎”的人失望

  • 对神经多样性成年人经常被忽视、误诊或不被理解——尤其是女性——感到失望

但这里依然有希望。

希望有一天：

  • 神经多样性成年人不必为自己的需求辩解

  • 敏感被视为感知力，而非软弱

  • ADHD 不再被误解为不负责任

  • 自闭症不再被简化为刻板印象

  • 休息不再像是失败

希望理解能够取代评判。

如果你也是神经多样性，这里属于你

如果你是 ADHD 成年人、高敏感者、或在自闭症谱系上，或介于其中，并且曾经感到自己一直在调整自己以适应世界——这个博客为你而写。

你并不孤单。
你并不夸张。
你并不“太过”。

你只是对一个不为你的大脑运作方式设计的世界做出正常反应。

如果你是来学习、支持你所爱的人，或者想更理解神经多样性——感谢你愿意倾听。

这个博客，是我的静默反抗。

一个让发泄变成语言、痛苦变成清晰、希望——慢慢——重新学会呼吸的地方。

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